Being good, although not nice

"Don't be a nice guy, be a good guy."

These were the words that someone said that resonated in me.

Growing up in an Asian society has embedded in me the importance of being nice, of being hospitable, of not wanting to offend people.

“Don’t say that, it’s not nice!” My mom would tell me off when I told people how I really felt or think (and of course the answer I gave them wouldn’t be nice i.e. It’s boring, I think there are better ways to do this, etc.).

I understand that maintaining peace is very important, (heck if someone likes strife then I’d ask them to see a psychologist).

But while keeping peace is important, to what extent does one do that? Does it mean one cannot speak up for their rights, express how they really feel, discuss openly about their thoughts and opinions?

Jesus was a good guy, but he wasn’t always nice.

He spoke the truth to many (even when they refused to take it), He overturned tables at the temple, He called the Pharisees “brood of vipers!”, etc. Jesus wasn't afraid to mince His words. And while He has the authority to do that, it makes me wonder about the same thing.

He was doing the right thing, even if it wasn't nice.

He was telling the people the truth, even if it wasn't what they want to hear.

He was thinking for the good of people, that they needed to know, so that they will not be ignorant.

Many people can tell each other what they want to hear, but my mom's words have never sounded truer in times like this. "You'll know if someone really cares for you if they tell you the truth, even though it's not nice."

Even then He has not left us alone, He has given us wisdom in telling the truth. In timing, in the proper context, to always have truth and grace (hand in hand).

It's hard to balance truth and grace, coz you either swing to being legalistic or licentious.

But with Jesus as the balance, one is liberated.

He is the balance.

WWJD is not easy. But to give up without trying would be a greater tragedy after all He has done.